Kara’s Adoption Journey
Adoption is a journey. In these features, we give hopeful adoptive families the space to share what they’ve learned, what they’ve struggled with, and what keeps them going. We’re so happy to introduce you to Kara.
Tell us about yourself and how you made your way to PairTree?
Hello! I am so excited to become a Mama through adoption. Children have always been a huge part of my life and I have felt drawn to adoption ever since I volunteered for a year at a children’s home in rural Honduras. Over the past three years, I had the unique honor to parent a baby/toddler through her first three years of life as her legal guardian. She now lives with a biological family member, but I am forever grateful I got to be her Mama when she needed me. And, I learned so much about parenting and caring for newborns, babies, and toddlers! Caring for her helped me understand my heart to be a forever mom and I cannot wait to welcome my baby home.
I have a strong group of friends, neighbors, and family (it takes a village!) who have always supported me and who also can’t wait to welcome another little one into our community.
I am bilingual, having lived for 5 years in Latin America. I hope someday to travel with my future child and give them the chance to learn Spanish as well.
Things I love: My family, Kids, Dogs, Pupusas, Hawaii, Travel, Swimming, Hiking, Music (current favorite: Brandi Carlile).
What has surprised you about this process – good and/or bad?
I have been surprised by how many different paths to adoption there are! It can be a little confusing to find the one that feels like a good fit.
What do you think is misunderstood about adoption?
I think some folks don’t understand that adoption is a lifelong journey. As a hopeful adoptive parent, I am committing to my future child, their birth family, and to my own ongoing learning/education about being the parent my child will need. This feels natural and exciting to me.
Who are your biggest supporters? Who can you always turn to?
My sister is my biggest supporter. She lives nearby, with her husband and four children. She is amazing and such a huge blessing in my life. I also have many friends within walking distance and always have someone I can turn to.
Do you have a favorite quote or mantra?
“Into a world which needed you, My wish for you is that you continue. Continue. To be who and how you are, To astonish a mean world with your acts of kindness.”
-Maya Angelou, “Continue”
How often do you cry? (Seriously…)
Oh, often! Holding in emotions doesn’t do anyone any good (did I mention I’m a mental health counselor?). And I have found that the more willing I am to embrace tears/sadness/grief, the more space there is for joy and living fully!
What you are most proud of – so far – in this process?
I feel proud that I am taking lots of time to learn about adoption. I have a bookshelf full of books and am just soaking it up. I am listening to adoptees and birth mothers on podcasts and via social media and learning so much. I am grateful for my ability to stay open and learn in ways that will help me become a better Mom.
What scares you the most about this process — and why?
Sometimes I feel afraid that it will never happen. I have such a deep longing to me a Mom and I just hope and pray to be connected with the expectant mom I am meant to meet.
If you had a magic wand, what would you like to change most about this process?
I would add so much more emotional support (ie: counseling, support groups, etc…) for expectant families, both before and after birth.
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