Brittny & Steve’s Adoption Journey

Adoption is a journey. In these features, we give hopeful adoptive families the space to share what they’ve learned, what they’ve struggled with, and what keeps them going. We’re so happy to introduce you to Brittny & Steve.

Tell us about yourself and how you made your way to PairTree?

We are the Rubin Family and we are hopeful adoptive parents. We have one biological son, Steven who is 8 years old. We are hoping to expand our family through a self matched adoption, which led us to PairTree.

What has surprised you about this process – good and/or bad?

What’s surprised us about this process is the cost that most agencies charge. Sometimes outrageous fees that the birth family never sees.

What do you think is misunderstood about adoption?

I think it’s often misunderstood that the birth family doesn’t love or care about their baby, which is why they are placing them for adoption. But we believe the opposite. That it’s the absolute love and caring for their child that moves them towards adoption.

Who are your biggest supporters? Who can you always turn to?

Our biggest supporters are our family. We both have great families who were are very close to. We know that with one phone call they are always there for us, no matter what.

Do you have a favorite quote or mantra?

“When the world says give up, hope whispers try it one more time.” -Unknown

How often do you cry? (Seriously…)

Seriously?… Often, but they range from tears of joy, tears of hope, tears of sadness. We are so happy to be on this journey, but the fear of the unknown causes sadness.

What you are most proud of – so far – in this process?

I am so proud of the support we have received through this process from our friends and family. They are all excited to see us grow our family, and to love on a new little one.

What scares you the most about this process — and why?

What scares us most is that we won’t match with a birth family.

If you had a magic wand, what would you like to change most about this process?

If I could change one thing about this process it would be the cost and the support that the birth family receives through the adoption process

Click here to learn more about Brittny & Steve. They’d love to hear from you!

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