Darcie & Ben’s Adoption Journey

Adoption is a journey. In these features, we give hopeful adoptive families the space to share what they’ve learned, what they’ve struggled with, and what keeps them going. We’re so happy to introduce you to Darcie & Ben.

Tell us about yourself and how you made your way to PairTree?

We have been married for 18 years and have made many memories as our family grew. Ben retired from the Coast Guard and has been a stay at home dad for 6 years now. Together we run an in home daycare. This gives us the capability to be home for our children mentally and physically. Our goal as parents is to help our children become the person they truly feel that they are. We follow their lead and support their journey through life. They are involved in dance, guitar, violin, martial arts and many other extra curriculars. We love camping and being outdoors together.

Our daughter was adopted at birth and our family would not be the same without her. We are all excited and ready to welcome another baby or babies into the family. they will be the last child and showered with love. We are excited for new memories and experiences as our family grows.

We would like any birth mother to know that our number one priority is to be active parents and let each child of ours know how special they are. Their adoption story is the very beginning of what them who they are.

We have an adoption profile through Angel Adoption as well and we were told about PairTree through our home study agency. We are excited to have our profile shown in this site as well.

What has surprised you about this process – good and/or bad?

I love how birth mothers and adoptive families are matched. It sees very personal.

What do you think is misunderstood about adoption?

I do not think that people understand that adoption begins with the birth parent. They are the beginning of each adoption story and it is their trust in the adoptive family that they choose that starts it. The birth parents are always part of those children, and will always love them.

Who are your biggest supporters? Who can you always turn to?

We have wonderful friends and family that are available at a phone call. Our family has formed a tight circle of friendship and trust. Our daycare families become more than clients as well, some are now considered family members. All of our extended family support our family as it is and support the children as the different individuals that they are.

Do you have a favorite quote or mantra?

Treat others how you want to be treated.

How often do you cry? (Seriously…)

I think that everyone in my family cries at least once a week. Life can be hard and stressful at times.

What you are most proud of – so far – in this process?

Seeing how patient we can be, we just keep going with daily lives. We are ready at a phone call to be chosen but also know that the right situation will come to us at the right time.

What scares you the most about this process — and why?

Getting chosen by a birth mother, traveling to pick up the baby only to find out she is keeping the baby. I understand that completely, its made our of love. That is the scariest thought, because we would have loved the baby already too.

If you had a magic wand, what would you like to change most about this process?

I would love to be able to see in the future and see the date that we get our 1st family picture with our family of 6 or 7. So, if we all just moved up a list and knew our turn was next, that would be amazing.

Click here to learn more about Darcie & Ben. They’d love to hear from you!

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