Julianne & Frank’s Adoption Journey

Adoption is a journey. In these features, we give hopeful adoptive families the space to share what they’ve learned, what they’ve struggled with, and what keeps them going. We’re so happy to introduce you to Julianne & Frank.

Tell us about yourself and how you made your way to PairTree?

Ever since Julie was a young adult, she dreamed about adopting a child. Julie’s cousin is adopted, along with several of her friends from elementary and high school. Frank has a close friend who is a birth mom and has several friends who have adopted. We have been discussing adoption since 2015, and were originally hoping to adopt through foster care, but found the uncertainty of foster care to be challenging. After fostering two wonderful boys for six months, the boys went on to be adopted by their grandmother, and we were heartbroken. We are fortunate enough to stay in touch and watch them grow into beautiful young men, but when they left, we decided to try to have our own child. We were blessed beyond measure with our wonderful son, and now we know the time is right for him to become a big brother! Pairtree is a forum that we like better than all of the others that we researched because we know that Pairtree is doing everything they can to give expectant moms access to the resources they need. This is of utmost importance to us, because every mom should have the opportunity to raise her child if it is in her heart.

Frank and Julie in Japan

What has surprised you about this process – good and/or bad?

We have been surprised by how difficult it is to connect with expectant moms. We have also been surprised by how many people want to adopt.


What do you think is misunderstood about adoption?

There are a lot of misunderstandings about adoption, but I think one of the biggest revolves around the amount of time involved. When our paperwork was done, a lot of people were asking us when a child would come to our home, not realizing it often takes years.

A day at the splash park with Priscilla, Annabella, and Daniella: some of our closest friends

Who are your biggest supporters? Who can you always turn to?

Julie has a group of mom friends that are like family to her. They are always there to answer any questions and give support. Julie’s parents are also a huge part of our support system.

Frank plays a show

Do you have a favorite quote or mantra?

“All of our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” -Walt Disney

How often do you cry? (Seriously…)

Honest answer: almost never, but Julie is an empath and a caregiver so she is deeply affected by the way that other people feel. She also relates well to others for this reason

What you are most proud of – so far – in this process?

We are most proud of putting the needs of the child and expectant mom first. We had a beautiful young girl whom we had the potential to adopt, but, after realizing that her birth mom had already established a strong relationship with another family, we decided that the other family was the best place for her. We hope our perfect match will come eventually!

What scares you the most about this process — and why?

I personally fear not being there when the baby is born. I know how those first few moments after birth are, and I know how important those first connections are. I want to be there. Also, if I’m being honest, I fear that we will not be found by an expectant mom. Waiting to connect has been so much harder than I thought

If you had a magic wand, what would you like to change most about this process?

I would love to know when and how we will meet that very special mother who will choose us to raise her child

Click here to learn more about Julianne & Frank. They’d love to hear from you!

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