Christina & Robert’s Adoption Journey

Adoption is a journey. In these features, we give hopeful adoptive families the space to share what they’ve learned, what they’ve struggled with, and what keeps them going. We’re so happy to introduce you to Christina & Robert.

Tell us about yourself and how you made your way to PairTree?

We met through a dating website in 2015, and on our first date, we met in front of a Cupcake ATM. We kid that it was “love at first sight” but it kinda was. We were instantly comfortable around each other. There was no guessing whether or not we were meant to be together. Everything we wanted for our futures matched up – including wanting to have children and also adopt. We knew that someday we would.

We had a really fun wedding to kick off our marriage and got to enjoy a honeymoon in Italy. We hope to travel more and take our children around the world with us.

After our wedding, we were “bored” and got our first dog, Bruce. He is an awesome guy and very social. He has more friends than we do! A year later we welcomed Gladys into our family. Gladys is a little dog who thinks she is a human, quite a character.

We bought a worn-down house in 2017 and have transformed it into a beautiful and fun home. We did all of the labor ourselves and have poured our love into it.

In 2018 we welcomed our daughter, Tina. She is an awesome kid and it has been so much fun watching her take over our house with toys and laughter!

We are a very fun, loving, and loyal family -there is never a dull moment!

Robert and Christina at their wedding!

What has surprised you about this process – good and/or bad?

We were so worried about the paperwork and getting our home study approved that we realized we never considered the reality of our future. We have taken so much from the adoption classes that we have taken – from learning what a birth mother goes through to what it would be like to raise a child outside of our family’s race(s). We were so happy that adoptions are now most commonly open and we love that our child will know their birth family and where they came from.

We have spent countless hours trying to find the right words to say and how to say them. The truth is we are new to this, just as you may be. We have always wanted to adopt and we are learning about the process every day. We can learn how to navigate this life-changing decision together.

What do you think is misunderstood about adoption?

Everyone talks about how much work it is. We found that the process was reasonable and was never overwhelmed by it. We also learned that there are so many reasons that a birth mother would choose adoption.

Who are your biggest supporters? Who can you always turn to?

We have unconditional support from our mothers.

Do you have a favorite quote or mantra?

“Do one thing every day that scares you.” Eleanor Roosevelt

How often do you cry? (Seriously…)

Every couple of weeks Christina has a good cry. Robert not as often.

What you are most proud of – so far – in this process?

We are so proud of getting our home study approved – not that we thought we wouldn’t, it just feels like a huge step in us growing our family through adoption.

What scares you the most about this process — and why?

Waiting and being disappointed. But, I know that our baby is out there and when the time is right they will make their way to us.

If you had a magic wand, what would you like to change most about this process?

So far nothing.

Click here to learn more about Christina & Robert. They’d love to hear from you!

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