Ivy & Nathan’s Adoption Journey

Adoption is a journey. In these features, we give hopeful adoptive families the space to share what they’ve learned, what they’ve struggled with, and what keeps them going. We’re so happy to introduce you to Ivy & Nathan.

Tell us about yourself and how you made your way to PairTree?

Welcome to our page! Our names our Nathan (30), Ivy (28), and Easton (2) and we’re a family from North Carolina. Nathan and I have been together since February 2010 when we started dating in high school and rest is pretty much history. We were married in 2015 and we had our first son in 2019. You can find us hanging out with our immediate and extended family the majority of the time. We are HUGE family people who believe it takes a village to raise children. We wish that we could show you all of our family on this page but know that when any new member is brought into our family, they are treated with so much love and kindness. Nathan and I have always dreamed of adopting a baby and/or child since we were young. We can both remember the exact day we talked about adoption while riding around in Nathan’s high school 2001 Jeep Cherokee Sport. It is a special memory from our high school years and we cannot wait to tell our future child(ren) that we have been dreaming and hoping for them over the past 10+ years. One cool fact is that Nathan’s brother and our sister-in-law are actually in the process of adopting a sweet little baby girl! Adopting is something that many of our friends and now family members are a part of and we both think that is so special. It is something that the both of us have always hoped and imagined we would pursue in our older years as a couple… and here we are! WOOOHOO! We are both honored that you would consider us as future parents to your child. We are working with an adoption agency in Greenville, South Carolina called Quiver Full. They recommended PairTree to us and we instantly fell in love with everything they stand for. We believe in advocating for expectant mothers considering adoption and hope to connect with those who might be interested!

Fun fact about our family- I am obsessed with any type of plant and shopping for Easton. My favorite clothing stores for him our Zara and H&M!!

What has surprised you about this process – good and/or bad?

The Good- Our friends and family have been so supportive of us during this time. They are constantly checking on us and asking how they can help during our adoption journey. We seriously couldn’t ask for a better support system with our friends, family, and adoption agency.

This picture was taken on July 4, 2021 where we were celebrating with Ivy’s parents, our siblings, Nathan’s parents, and some close friends. The kids enjoyed sparklers and Easton shared chocolate ice cream with Daddy!

What do you think is misunderstood about adoption?

A lot of people misunderstand how long an adoption process can be. We have had several people ask when it will happen and we always say, “It could happen tonight or 2 years from now!” We also think a lot of people misunderstand why adoption occurs in the first place and we hope to change that for the better. We are always telling our friends and family that our future child will have two families which we believe this makes them extra loved!!

This is the most recent picture we have with each other. After having a child our phones are filled with pictures of him and out family of three. This picture was taken the morning of Easton’s first day of preschool we are both so proud of our little guy and how brave he was the 1st day of preschool.

Who are your biggest supporters? Who can you always turn to?

-Our Church
– Our Family
(We are both super close with our siblings and talk/see them everyday.)
– Our Friends
– Each other

Yes, I am that Mom that made our family wear matching shirts to Disney World. But it’s Disney and I couldn’t help myself! Could our little Easton get any cuter?! We love traveling to places like Disney and CANNOT wait to take out next little one!!

Do you have a favorite quote or mantra?

Enjoy the journey (:
This has been our family quote this past year as we have jumped into the adoption process. Our journey the past couple of year has been crazy and I am constantly reminding myself to enjoy where I am at whether that be in a good or not so good place.

How often do you cry? (Seriously…)

In our family we believe showing emotions is a good thing! We are constantly talking about feelings and emotions to our son and helping him identify those emotions in the good times and bad. Our son has an emotions placemat at the table and he loves pointing to the different faces and talking about the emotions they are showing.

You can find me crying when I feel overwhelmed or when it’s that time of the month. lol -Ivy

The last time I cried was when my Grandmother passed away about 1 month ago. She was the most loving and caring person I know. My Grandma was Italian so she insisted on always making the most delicious meals and including ALL of our family. She is so loved and missed by myself and many of our family members. — Nathan

What you are most proud of – so far – in this process?

We are proud of all the knowledge and new friends we’ve made along this journey. There are so many amazing people who are rooting for all of the adoption parties and we are so proud to be a part of that process. We have learned so much from adoptees, expectant mothers, and adoption professionals.

What scares you the most about this process — and why?

One of the biggest things we’re scared of is hurt feelings and broken promises. When we promise something to an expectant mama we want her to know that is it the truth and ask that in return. We stand by our word and don’t break promises in our family. We hate having hurt feelings and it has honestly happened several times during our adoption journey. We are both open books and will talk about pretty much anything but when it comes to being truthful and honest it’s something we take very seriously.

If you had a magic wand, what would you like to change most about this process?

We would change all of the awkwardness and self-doubt that comes from all sides of the adoption world. I want all expectant mothers considering adoption to know that we want what is best for you and your baby! We will stand behind and for you throughout this journey and know that you are not alone. We will always have the utmost respect for all of those involved in the adoption process because it truly takes a village to raise a child.

Click here to learn more about Ivy & Nathan. They’d love to hear from you!

More like this...

View All Insights