Alysia & Rashid’s Adoption Journey
Adoption is a journey. In these features, we give hopeful adoptive families the space to share what they’ve learned, what they’ve struggled with, and what keeps them going. We’re so happy to introduce you to Alysia & Rashid.
Tell us about yourself and how you made your way to PairTree?
Hello! We are Alysia and Rashid (and this is our dog, Whisper). We have been on this life’s journey together since we met 12 years ago. We found each other through a mutual friend who invited Alysia to join a Dungeons & Dragons campaign (Yep, we are nerds!). Guess who was running it – It was Rashid! We fell in love shortly after meeting and have been together ever since.
Alysia works at the family -operated accounting business and loves it because she gets to spend her time with her favorite cousins and enjoys making sure everybody is on track with each client we take on. She loves being organized! She’s also compassionate, enthusiastic and devoted. She gives her all on the things that matter most. She’s also very creative and loves doing art projects. Alysia has a huge cabinet dedicated to just crafting supplies.
Rashid is a gentle giant (He’s 6’3). He works at a pharmacy giving guidance and care to patients. He loves working in a place where he can really make a difference for a person. He’s a very kind and loving soul and very generous too – He always goes out of his way to help his friends. Oh and he’s punny – He’s already got a thousand dad jokes just waiting to happen!
We both love kids and dream of having a child of our own. Unfortunately, we’ve had a miscarriage and infertility issues ever since. We know it doesn’t matter how our child comes to be with us, we’d love them with all our hearts just the same! We have family and friends who adopted and know that this is the perfect path for us. We can’t wait to grow our family!
What has surprised you about this process – good and/or bad?
This process is absolutely a rollercoaster of emotion. The anticipation to be able to share our love with a little one, the hope for our future as a family, is a beacon of light through the fear of never finding the right match. Every day we have to balance that fear with our hopeful prayers!! It’s a lot, but for us, it’s worth it to trust and try our best!
What do you think is misunderstood about adoption?
I don’t think people realize just how hard adoption really is. It’s a very complicated and delicate process. There is an emotional toll for all that are involved but it’s also an incredible journey that can lead to peace, comfort, love, and support. You’re not growing your family by one child but by the loving family of the birth parents as well.
Who are your biggest supporters? Who can you always turn to?
Everyone has been very supportive of this journey we’re on and of course especially our parents – they are so excited for when we will be parents. They cannot wait to spoil the little one!
Our friends Erica & Brandon adopted their son a couple of years ago and when they found out we were going down that same path, they were overjoyed! They have been giving us lots of helpful tips and advice on parenthood and on adoption as well. Just being able to talk about this process with someone who has gone through it has been huge and very comforting!
Do you have a favorite quote or mantra?
Rashid’s Favorite Mantra (as a long time sci-fi mega fan!): “A Jedi must have patience.”
Alysia’s Favorite Quote: “They whispered to her; you cannot withstand the storm. She whispered back ‘I am the storm’“ – Unknown
Whisper (Our Dogs) Favorite Quote: “Dogs teach us a very important lesson in life: The mailman is not to be trusted” – Sian Ford
How often do you cry? (Seriously…)
Alysia is a sensitive soul. She has been known to get teary-eyed during a sentimental moment or watching a sappy romantic movie. Rashid is very easy-going. Rashid never gets ruffled and is very happy-go-lucky. No matter what though, we can always lean on each other for support.
What you are most proud of – so far – in this process?
The closeness between us in our married life has only grown, the trust we show in each other, and our understanding of the shape of our shared dreams has become so much deeper and clearer through our adoption journey.
What scares you the most about this process — and why?
We feel strongly that this journey will lead us to the family we have been praying for, and we are following our hearts every day. But no one can really know how it will end. all we can do is stay hopeful and ready to receive whatever blessing comes into our lives and be thankful for each other’s love and strength throughout.
If you had a magic wand, what would you like to change most about this process?
If I had a magic wand, I would love to create a mirror that Expected Mothers could glimpse through once they’ve narrowed down their adoptive parents’ options. They could visually see what their child’s life would be like and give a sense of comfort and assurance that they would make the right choice if they decided to go through with the adoption process.
Click here to learn more about Alysia & Rashid. They’d love to hear from you!