Madeline & Chris’s Adoption Journey
Adoption is a journey. In these features, we give hopeful adoptive families the space to share what they’ve learned, what they’ve struggled with, and what keeps them going. We’re so happy to introduce you to Madeline & Chris.
Tell us about yourself and how you made your way to PairTree?
We have two amazing daughters and live an energetic, love-filled life. We are ready to expand our family from 4 to 5 through adoption, and found PairTree as another potential touch point in identifying birth parents, in addition to working with an agency.
What has surprised you about this process – good and/or bad?
It’s been slower for us. But the advice that our child is out there and will come exactly when they’re supposed to has been comforting. We also are full of gratitude for the family we have and continuing to live our life while being hopeful in the process as a waiting family. It’s also been powerful to meet other adoptive parents at all stages of the process.
What do you think is misunderstood about adoption?
I don’t think birth mothers – and birth parents – are celebrated enough. This is the ULTIMATE act of love. I look forward to honoring you in this process. I cannot imagine the connection I’ll feel with you.
Who are your biggest supporters? Who can you always turn to?
Each other. Our family unit is strong. And, we surround ourselves with others who uplift us in this process and are hopeful along with us!
Do you have a favorite quote or mantra?
We have the ability to create what we need to heal. We are our own biggest supporters and advocates, and we are more powerful than we realize.
How often do you cry? (Seriously…)
I want everyone to find an environment where they feel safe enough to cry at any time – through the good, bad and ugly – and will be supported.
What you are most proud of – so far – in this process?
Working hard to maintain and cultivate our mental health and connection through the process.
What scares you the most about this process — and why?
Everything scares me about the process 🙂 and I think that is also what makes it magical. Stepping into the unknown, and watching ourselves navigate challenges from all angles. It makes us stronger.
If you had a magic wand, what would you like to change most about this process?
We will receive our child when we’re supposed to. I wouldn’t change anything about our process. I would like to make it more seamless and faster yet still intentional process for future adoptive parents and birth parents navigating the process.
Click here to learn more about Madeline & Chris. They’d love to hear from you!