Tess & Matthew’s Adoption Journey

Adoption is a journey. In these features, we give hopeful adoptive families the space to share what they’ve learned, what they’ve struggled with, and what keeps them going. We’re so happy to introduce you to Matthew & Tess.

Tell us about yourself and how you made your way to PairTree?

We are ready to adopt! We’ve settled down and live in our dream home on a lake. We both find our professional lives at Iowa colleges fulfilling and inspiring. As we hopefully navigate parenthood, PairTree surfaced as a platform that shows the best of us and our wonderful life together.

The hunt for a Christmas tree.

What has surprised you about this process – good and/or bad?

We have been surprised at how supportive our family, friends, and community have been. Though the process is long, we remain hopeful that the right fit will come along.

A selfie with Pablo, my best friend from Costa Rica.

What do you think is misunderstood about adoption?

As with most things, it is important to appreciate the process. The same goes for adoption. It is a long road to travel, but we know that the destination will be better than we can possibly imagine.

We are with our very friends sharing an evening together. It is always special to connect with these friends because we only speak Spanish when together..

Who are your biggest supporters? Who can you always turn to?

Both of our families are close-knit. And we are very blessed to live in a small community with families that support each other.

Tess and Matthew with family. And, as always, smiles abound.

Do you have a favorite quote or mantra?

I am grateful for all that is unfolding in my life and all that is yet to come.

How often do you cry? (Seriously…)

As serious as we think we are at work, our home life is different. Tess is more of a crier than Matthew. That said, Matthew isn’t afraid of being emotional. We both feel. We feel each other’s sadness and joy.

What you are most proud of – so far – in this process?

Patience. The adoption process has taught us to believe in controlling the things we can and to let go of the things we can’t.

What scares you the most about this process — and why?

We believe we will provide a child with the life they deserve. We worry that this might not happen.

If you had a magic wand, what would you like to change most about this process?

A magic wand isn’t necessary. Truly, we believe that the perfect match will take place at the perfect time.

Click here to learn more about Matthew & Tess. They’d love to hear from you!

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